So, I’ve been at the dieting thing for 10 weeks. I just gained a pound and a half this weekend somehow, but before that I had lost 22 pounds since the end of August. It’s not really great, and I’ve hit a bit of a lull. I know what the problem is, I’m not exercising enough. I have started walking every morning, but it’s really not that far– just around the neighborhood. I listen to a few podcasts then come home and take a shower. On the other hand, I’ve been really faithful to the diet. I don’t fall off and I’ve learned to cook several South Beach recipes that even the kids like.
With the news of the economy worsening by the day, I decided I would try my hand at going back into the single’s market. I’d feel better for some reason if I could go through this financial meltdown with someone special in my life. I so wish I could find someone else who is trying to lose a large amount of weight, too. That would be ideal! But for now, because I really don’t have much of a “real” social life, I’m trying eharmony. I tried eharmony before when I first got divorced. It worked really well, so I’m hopeful something good will happen. Of course, I lost quite a bit of weight when I first divorced, so I felt a lot better about myself. (Yes, of course I gained it all back.)
The “wordle” image at the top of this post is something that is increasingly annoying in all the matches I receive. These are the words that jump off the “match” profiles that come to me. Men simply do not want to date fat women. Period. They make it very clear in their introductory comments they are only interested in __________ (substitute your euphemism for thin) women. It’s a shame, really. I have a lot to offer a single man, despite the fact that I need to lose this weight (which I will alone or in a relationship). If it’s about the sex, that’s ridiculous. Without getting into a lot of personal detail, I consider myself adept in that department. The way I look at it, sex is more or less about orifices anyway. In all the years I’ve been alive- when I was rail thin and when I was overweight– I don’t ever remember losing or gaining weight in any orifice. My brother reads this blog, so I’ll stop here. Rant over.
I imagine it’s the same for men. I was watching “The Tao of Steve” Saturday morning before I got out of bed, and the main character, Steve, basically said the same thing. The dialog went something like this, “You wouldn’t date a fat guy, would you?” He was asking his love interest who honorably replied in the negative.
So there you have it. Discrimination once again levied against the fat population. Ironically, this is a fight I’m not willing to fight because it’s one that I, by default, tacitly endorse with my stated desire to lose weight (presumably to look better, not be healthier).
I’m not sure anyone is reading this blog (besides my brother), but if you’ve had personal experience with this fat-and-single-trying-to-date thing, I’d love to hear it. Thanks.
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I’ve never really faced the fat and single delima except when I was a teenager and just got lucky to find a woman who looked past the outward image. As sad as it is to say, men have greater success with this than women. Most men, no matter what they look like, expect a perfect ten in the physique department. The older I get, the more I realize that anyone can be beautiful. I will have to say that a lot of this is dependent on whether they are healthy or not, which does not mean skinny. I think overweight people can be healthy and you can see it in them. Furthermore, the weight of someone does not guarantee a successful relationship.
I feel like I am rambling. I hope this makes sense.
Thanks Steve. That’s encouraging. I do feel better that I’m much more healthy now. I had my blood pressure taken the other day and it was PERFECT: 120/80. I’m sure my cholesterol is down too. I also agree that so much of a successful relationship boils down to basic compatibility and acceptance.
Yes….. Your brother is reading.